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Post by HappyMaMa on Jan 5, 2008 22:40:45 GMT 7
Hi, let's share in this thread some methods/ ways we handle situation/ choice of words etc when answering questions from others regarding the child's identity. For us, we choose to say "we are adoptive parents" instead of "she is adopted".
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Post by workingmummy on Jan 7, 2008 8:27:12 GMT 7
I have a question here : If someone doesn't know about your adoption (can be anybody or even a stranger) and said something like your daughter look more alike to daddy/mummy... How are you going to ans? Will you tell them you are her adoptive parents? Or just keep quiet? We encountered such situation b4 and we did not explain to those ppl that my daughter is adopted as we think that we are not that close so not necessary to explain so much to them... Because once you tell them she is adopted then the story won't end here, they will start asking lots of questions like why do you want to adopt??? All these questions we had answer to lots of ppl like our friends and colleagues.... But if we don't tell those ppl the true, when you know them well (become close friends) our topics may cover pregnancy and give birth!!! So is it necessary to tell everyone that our daughter is adopted??
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Post by Mayday on Jan 7, 2008 13:37:14 GMT 7
We handle such situations like you do i.e. depending on whether we are close friends, or mere acquaintences. For the latter, a simple smile and sth along the line of "really ah? haha, we think so too!" would suffice. By doing this, we'd still not be saying anything false, and yet not offering extra info to someone we are not close to whom we might not want probing too deeply into our private matters.
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Post by workingmummy on Jan 7, 2008 14:58:06 GMT 7
Definitely we won't hide the fact from our close friends, in fact all of our friends and relatives are aware of our adoption Over the past 2 years we met some new friends and also some ppl we can't consider them as friend like those hawkers that we always patronise will be asking lots of question which some times make me feel so uneasy!!! I am glad that you also share the same views...
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Post by HappyMaMa on Jan 7, 2008 22:10:34 GMT 7
When friends become close friends, and when we talk about pregnancy and other stuff, and when i reveal that we are adoptive parents, most of them will understand why I do not disclose to them in the first place...
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